People often ask me how I maintain a positive attitude, regardless of what happens to me in life. For the new year, I’d like to share ways I’ve become the way I am. By making these easy, small changes, you can also make 2016 your best year ever.
I’ll start by saying I didn’t have it easy growing up. Yes, I had a very loving family and good friends, but we didn’t have a lot of money. This meant a lack of food and clothing, and not being able to do things most kids were enjoying. (Family vacations, spring break trips, the coolest clothing, name brand cereals!) I’d come to accept that as my life. But I couldn’t accept that as forever being my life.
- I decided at one point to only accept good things, good people, good thoughts, and to do away with all the bad in my life. I made a mental list of the people who brought me down, the things that got me nowhere, and my actions or thoughts that didn’t help me develop positively. Then, I told them to take a big flying leap!
- I stopped thinking about the lack of money in my life and only thought about gaining it and what I would do with it. (I guess I knew “The Secret” all along.) Once I did that, everything started falling into place. Everything I ever wanted started falling in my lap. Honestly, how could I ever turn back at that point? I couldn’t.
- When I say I don’t hold grudges, I mean it. I’ve spoken to a lot of people who do, and it seems to be one of the biggest stresses they put on their lives. Most often, when you hold a grudge, the person you’re holding it against doesn’t even know it. You’re wasting your precious energy, your sleep, your happiness on someone else! You’re allowing them to win a game they aren’t even playing. Refuse to be a loser in your own one-man game!
- I don’t worry about things. If there’s something going on in my life that doesn’t need my attention at that given moment, I simply don’t give it any attention. Ask yourself, is there anything I can do about it right this very second? If so, do it now and take care of it. I honestly love Nike’sJust Do It Really, getting it over with as soon as possible is so much easier than dwelling on something for days or weeks and creating more and more fear and worry around it. If you can’t do anything about it right now, push it aside and address it when the time comes.
- I read a lot. I don’t read depressing books. I read books that are enlightening. (Here are a few of my favorites.)
- I don’t watch crap TV or movies. I despise the news and most reality shows like Housewives of Wherever, etc… They only make you angry or depressed, and don’t argue with me – it is true. Pay attention to how you feel before and after watching your local news or a bunch of trashy kids or adults fighting and constantly belittling each other. Is one hour of boob-tubin’ it to get the latest scoop on strangers really worth an entire day of the unbalanced emotional state you’ll probably find yourself in?
Wake up happy and only do things during the day that you know will sustain your happiness.
This is worth printing out as a daily read:
JUST FOR TODAY
By Frank Crane
1. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that, “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.
2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.
3. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways; I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. I will do at least two things I do not want to do, just for exercise.
6. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.
7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.
8. Just for today I will have a program. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurrying and indecision.
9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective in my life.
10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.
Happy New Year, Friends!
What changes will you be making this year?